I really only regret things I should have said, or shouldn’t have, and done at the moment that they were happening.
I have a tendency to not say things that come to my mind and wait until the moment is gone and I cannot say it anymore because the right moment is gone. I have a big fear of what people may think of me if I say something that is on my mind at that moment. This has caused me to miss the opportunity to say things to people that mean a lot to me or even to people who may just need to hear it at that moment.
My biggest regret would have to be the last time I got to see my grandpa. I was at my grandparent’s house, about to leave. I was getting my morning shower like usual and my grandpa was getting ready to leave for work, he yelled up to me that he loved me and that he was leaving. Instead of getting out of the shower to hug him before he left I just yelled back that I loved him too.
I never got the chance to see or even hug my grandpa again after that day because he passed away suddenly a couple weeks later.
From that day on I promised myself that when someone was leaving even if I was in the middle of doing something I would stop and give them a hug because that could be the last time I might ever be able too.
A lot of these moments are learning experiences and I do not linger on them. Even with my grandpa I still moved on and learned from it.
Since that moment, I have done a lot of things that I once wouldn’t. If I even have the thought that I might regret not doing something or saying something I usually will do it just so I don’t have the feeling of regret.
The feeling of regret, I think, is one of the worst feelings someone can have. I try very hard not to regret things and sometimes I still get the sense of regret for some things, but I just try and remind myself that it was a learning experience and that I can only grow from it and I cannot get that moment in time back.
I have learned that taking a step out of the comfort zone has caused me to have fewer regrets in my life. Getting out of my comfort zone and enjoying life more fully has been one of the greatest decisions I could have ever made for myself.
I would tell everyone that if you feel as though you will regret something do it at that moment no matter how much courage you have to muster up, in the end, it is all worth it.
A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there. ~Unknown